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Дети лучше понимают в жизни, чем родители | Садхгуру на русском


Participant: Coming closer to home what do you suggest for, you know lot of us who have children here what are the things we can be doing to sort of put them… or at least follow some of the ideas that you share with us ? Sadhguru: Don’t infect them [Laughs] see whenever a child enters people’s lives they always think…most people tend to think it’s time to teach No. When a child enters your life it’s time
to learn because between you and your child who is more joyful? Child. So who should be a consultant for life? [Laughs] definitely he is better qualified than you
isn’t it? you know a few survival tricks you may know how to earn your money
yoy may know how to handle your survival tricks outside but when it comes to life he’s able to make any simple situation a joyful situation
so definitely he must be the consultant for life, isn’t it? so child has come means it’s time to learn it doesn’t matter how glum you are if you have a child in your house unknowingly you will laugh unknowingly you will play unknowingly you will dance
unknowingly you will crawl under the sofa these are not things you have done for a long time isn’t it? once a child is there it’s like a bundle of joy bouncing all over
the place and unknowingly you start doing many things the
child is doing so the most important thing is don’t infect
a child with your what you call as adulthood.
This is not adulthood, okay. this is just suicide in installments don’t infect the child with that you have to learn to live like him to make any situation into a joyful wonderful situation. It doesn’t matter what you give him a piece of wood with that he makes his life for the whole afternoon, isn’t it? isn’t it so? with anything he can make a situation wonderful
for himself you just have to learn that too you have to teach him a few survival skills that he will learn anyway,
you can also guide him a little bit but those things anyway he will learn so the most important thing that you need
to do especially in a society like this where the moment the child steps out,
you don’t know what influences are going to
catch him up you don’t know what is going to swallow him outside. When you’re living in a situation like
this the most important thing is, stop acting like
a boss and…see when you were growing up if you whatever problems or whatever when you had…
did you go to your parents or to your friends? whom did you share it with? friends and your friends whichever way, they are not qualified to guide you but in their own way
with great confidence they put you onto something isn’t it? why is it? why is it that parents who have been
with the children right from day one can’t be good friends? You just have to get off your pedestal that’s the most important thing stop being a big boss, get down and be a friend. If he
has anything you should be the first person that they share
with, isn’t it? Yes. That’s a very important safety net for
the child that if you’re the first person they want to
talk to …whatever it is .. it doesn’t matter what their problems is if you leave that level of openness and friendship
with them if they come to you first there’s every possibility that they won’t get lost
in something. Isn’t it? that’s the simplest thing you can do whichever way every human being has his own limitations and possibilities the only thing is to create a situation and atmosphere so that their possibilities and their capabilities
are not lost in something else. Isn’t it? that’s all you can do you can’t re-create that human being but you can nurture that human being to
his ultimate potential. That’s the whole thing so the most important thing is this, the parents
should get off their pedestal and start treating them as equals and friends. This can’t happen suddenly when you think he’s smoking then you try to be
his friend. Please tell me what are you smoking Is it just tobacco then he won’t yield at that point he won’t yield.
By then he has got his defences right against you this has to happen right from childhood you know that he never sees you as somebody who is pushing him around or bossing around or
all the time advising him about something that you’re very much a friend,
he can talk to you and you talk to him as an equal if this is maintained right from the beginning when things are…when he is developing and when
there are possibilities of his taking wrong steps and things like that you will be the first person he comes to.
That’s something we have to build. Isn’t it?

19 Comments

  • Polina Grein

    "Самое главное – не нужно заражать ребёнка своим понятием о взрослой жизни… это не взрослая жизнь… это самоубийство, совершаемое шаг за шагом…"!!! "Главное – создать атмосферу, чтобы способности ребёнка не были потеряны… Вы можете помочь ему раскрыть весь его Потенциал… в этом и смысл."!!!
    К этой Мудрости осталось добавить пожелание для всех родителей – единодушия!

  • Нина Комиссарова

    Вот спасибо то. Да что ж так поздно все это слышишь? Лет бы 40 назад, когда дети только рождались. Все равно, спасибо. Определённую мудрость можно извлечь и сейчас.

  • Андрей Смирнов

    "Ребёнку нужно стать Другом"- золотые слова. Но вот учиться у ребенка? Ребёнок плачет и расстраивается по любому поводу, по малейшей причине. Радостный ребёнок только тогда, когда ему уделяют максимум внимания, когда все его потребности и желания удовлетворены. Любой взрослый тоже будет радостным, когда его потребности и желания удовлетворены. Или имелось в виду, что ребёнок радуется простым вещам и не строит планов и целей?

  • Lida Lida

    Мне нравится голос переводчика !!!Это правда дети нас учат ,они мудрее нас .

  • Владимир Алексеевич Жданов

    Вообще согласен про детей. САМОоздоровление в ходе повседневных дел, на работе и дома, весь период бодрствования…
    У детей учумь!

  • Максим Максим

    Не нужен ребёнку друг родитель! Ему нужен образец отца который является гарантом логики в действиях и безопасности а мать гарантом любви и заботы.

  • Ляля Султанова

    Замечательные знания, рекомендации о воспитании, психологии детей! Благодарю Вас, дорогой Садхгуру!

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