How To Chat Up Women On Facebook (And Get A Date!)
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How To Chat Up Women On Facebook (And Get A Date!)

As opposed to a time when you could really
only meet people face to face, through people you know, there are so many new, innovative
ways to meet people. But, thanks to technology, the possibilities
to meet people and find a date are pretty broad. Hey, I’m Kate Spring, dating and relationship
coach from the west coast of Canada, and I’m here to help you chat up a woman on Facebook
and possibly get a date. With the variety of ways to go about getting
a date, it can be either a blessing or a curse. If you chose to look at it as something exciting,
then that’s what it is. It can be super hard to think of THE PERFECT
thing to say to make you irresistible, but at least you don’t have to have the nerves
of being face to face. Alright, before we get started, like always,
if you have any questions, please leave them in the comments below, and I’ll get back
to you as soon as I can! What is the first thing people look at when
someone adds them on Facebook? If you thought their profile pictures, you’re
right. Having an up to date profile is really going
to help your dating game. And it all starts with your profile pictures. This is where you can pretty much show off
your best side and features. Are you outdoorsy? Artistic? Sporty? Whatever you are, you can incorporate these
into your profile pictures, which helps us get to know you better. It is also important to have some selfies,
or pictures where you are the focus, and your face is visible. When you have multiple pictures of yourself
and your friends, it it hard for girls to comb through your photos to try and figure
out which one is you. This takes away the time we want to spend
getting to know you through your profile. So have an up to date profile. Get rid of old photos of yourself and your
ex. Have some selfies and update the “about
you” section. This lets people know what type of music,
movies, and books you’re into. Don’t forget to mention your place of work
and other things that tell us about you. These are all the details that we like to
know ahead of getting to know you, and then you can describe it more in depth, in person,
or on Facebook chat. The best type of photo you could use is one
that clearly shows your face, and maybe choose one out in a public setting—but definitely
not one from your webcam of you sitting at your computer. Those are just awkward photos. Women want you to be not only social and active
but also have a life that you can introduce them to. And not just mould into hers. Alright, now onto the actual interaction. If you add someone out of the blue, I would
guess that, usually, they would accept. Generally, it helps if your profile isn’t
locked up like “Fort Knox,” as we want to see some pictures. This helps people feel relieved that they
aren’t being “cat fished.” But if you already know the person, then,
great, add them. Or if you have just briefly met, adding people
on Facebook is a good first step as opposed to getting her phone number right off the
bat. That can come later on. Once you have been added back, it is time
to make the first move, or send the first message. I caution you against using the, “You are
so beautiful,” or the messages that come across as you worshipping her before you even
really know her. As much as we want to hear that we are beautiful,
we also want to work for it. By work for it, I mean we want to hear we
are beautiful once you know us more than skin deep. We want you to understand our personality
and find that attractive too. And if you really want to learn how to build
attraction with a woman, head over to and get a free copy of my attraction handbook,
which is completely free by the way! That’s So a good first message would require you
to have looked at her profile and find something that she seems interested in, and then introduce
yourself. Try to avoid the mundane questions about how
her day is. Or the broad questions like, “What are your
hobbies and interests?” Questions like that are so open-ended that
it can kind of be a conversation deterrent. It’s not an interesting question, so you
can’t expect an interesting response. An example of a good opener would be acknowledging
something that she is interested in. “I see you’re into _______,” and then
insert something that you can decipher from her profile. Does she ski, horseback ride, read Daniel
Steele novels religiously, drink Prosecco like it’s her day job? Either way, you can find something that she
does, and start a dialogue with that. To follow, say something kind of cheeky. For example, say she drinks Prosecco, and
you say, “I see Prosecco is your poison of choice. You must be the one responsible for the Prosecco
drought.” Something like that. You find something from her profile and then
kind of exaggerate it to spark some conversation. You could then go on to say something about
her depleting the Prosecco resources some more this weekend. You’re really just trying to break the ice
and spark some conversation. And maybe even plan to meet up. So, once you’ve gotten to know her a bit
more, it’s time to ask her to hangout. Or transition to texting. Asking someone to hangout can be pretty daunting. But it becomes less so if you give it some
thought ahead of time. Try to come up with an activity, time of day,
and possibly day of the week ahead of time. Make sure you are flexible with the date to
accommodate her schedule. But be decisive and have a plan, and don’t
be hurt if she suggests something else! Once you come up with a time and place, you
can send her your phone number and say, “Here is my phone number in case you get lost on
the way or need some tips beforehand.” She will most likely text you her number so
that you can have it! Alright, YouTube, that’s all I have for
you today! I hope you’ve picked up some helpful tips
on how to chat to women on Facebook, and even transition to texting! Thanks for watching, and don’t forget to
subscribe to my channel to stay up to date with my latest videos. And do not forget to head over to
and get your free copy of the attraction handbook! TA TA


  • Akshay

    3 weeks into no contact my ex told a friend of ours she misses talking to me and wants to talk. Today is now 30 days and she posted a picture on Instagram saying "I miss the idea of you" implying that she misses being loved but not me. I don't know if she was influenced by friends to say this but it was a really bold statement considering that she hardly ever uses a caption. Did I leave it too late to contact her? And what should I do now?

  • GuyQuad

    Hey Kate, recently I met some girls with my friend and since we didn't know them I faked a British accent and they went crazy lol I had them hooked! can I continue doing this talking to girls Bc it gets their attention? And then later on reveal my actual voice? I'm a good impersonator so I thought girls would find it funny. Thoughts ?

  • The Wilkins Projects

    Hey Kate!! So me and this girl have been on and off, we hang out a lot over the summer brake and whenever id go over we would ether cuddle and make out or have sex. She says we're obviously more then just friends but she doesn't feel like she could date me, but she's always jelouse and cares a lot about me. Any tips on how to seal the deal and make it official with her?

  • Paul S Akeson

    Hi Kate their is a girl I like but I had bad experiences in the past and I truly have feelings for her. I tried to let the emotion goes but it's still in my heart. And the last time i wrote her I just wished her a happy holiday and she told me not to write her again. But I wasn't harassing her. And I want her to know that I have learned from my mistakes got helped that I've waited a long time. I think she's affraid that I'm too attached to her or something. I don't know what to do.

  • pallavanimator

    hello Kate I m from India Mumbai I want to know when is the right time to be in a relationship like girlfriend boyfriend as I have job in an animation industry and the pay is less I like a girl but I think its mere infatuation .but I need some girl to be my friend so as to understand me etc etc

  • Ralph Torres

    hi kate i have question to ask u what does it mean if a girl will say hi to me with a beautiful smile and will mention my name even thou she only knew my name for the first time

  • Tyler

    Oh my gosh!
    Hannah just messaged me on facebook, and asking me "what I'm up to these days"
    haha! she interested!

  • Edward Kennedy

    Funnily enough, several women I don't know added me as a friend on Facebook recently. I confirmed one lady, and she likes EVERYTHING I post, and she bought my poetry book. So I met her for a coffee. We didn't have any chemistry, but it was a good experience and meeting people on Facebook is becoming normal now. Those earrings really suit you Kate.

  • dray scott

    Hey Katie I just broke up wt my girl friend 2 days ago she says we can be room mates till I get my own place, my question is wats the best way to deal with this cause I still love and want her back

  • Abdallah Abdulslam

    Wow chat tutorial, that's what I've ever looking for, thank you so much for your efforts,, how to contact a gorgeous girl just like you?

  • Lesir Tadle

    Im still searching a woman even she's not pretty or a good looking one but she has beauty inside her heart and a God fearing woman

  • Austin gentile

    Hey! Loved the video, so I’m a nurse, there has been this student nurse who was at our hospital and I kinda talked to her in person but not a whole lot. I messaged her on Facebook, after she added me, I was talking to her about what study plans she she use to pass the NCLEX, nursing exam, but that was it, haven’t said anything since, which was a few days ago. How should I proceed?

  • scott bracha

    Hello. From someone hoping to have a YouTube channel soon. I was watching your video and something I noticed. Is that you come across as not very exited about your topic. It sounds sort of monotone and a little like your reading out loud. I've heard from other YouTube's that having that excitement in your voice can go a long ways with keeping viewers watching. Just a thought. I have no viewers. So just offering an opinion. 😊

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