I’ve always been a big proponent for social
media, and just the internet in general. And I would roll my eyes so hard at all of the
Doomsday Prophets who, ironically most often on social media, proclaim that the internet
is- RUINING OUR LIVES! We’re so busy looking down
on at screens, that we don’t even know how to talk to each other! *muttering*
That’s not the reason people aren’t speaking to you… What? *sighs* What do you think people are doing
on their phones? We’re more connected than ever, it’s just now we have the option of
speaking to people we actually care about, rather than weirdos shouting in the street. First of all… That’s kinda rude and hurts my feelings. Oh… Er… I- No. I- I- But I really cannot blame you. Your lack
of social skills makes perfect sense because thAT THING IS SENDING SIGNALS INTO YOUR BRAINS,
ROTTING IT FROM THE INSIDE! And you can fully see proof of this, by the mental health epidemic we’re having at the moment! *sighs* Signals are not the reason we have a rise
in mental health issues! But the connection to social definitely be looked into. However I do wonder how much the rise is because of how destimagtized mental health is finally
becoming, in part because of the platforms people gained to speak about it, thanks to the internet. *music stops* The internet gave us Logan and Jake Paul. Yeah okay, fair enough… I don’t personally think that I’ve ever been too ignorant, or even denied the potential
bad sides of social media – there are plenty! But I’ve always felt that the good far outweighed
the bad. Like for myself, I knew that I was addicted, and probably still am if I’m being
really honest. I’ve known ever since my family went on holiday to my grandparents’ place,
in Jamaica… Where they didn’t have any internet… *sad music plays* For three weeks… But I survived. I know, I’m so brave.
*mock cry* I was desperate for the internet after the
first day, and honestly felt like I was dying by the end. So yeah, addicted. But I didn’t
care, because I was enjoying it! The internet was fun, and it improved my life in so many
ways. And I was never that bad, like, I wasn’t one of those people who couldn’t have a conversation
with someone without checking their phone. I chose to be addicted, so it was fine, right?
Right?! *dramatic music sting*
Wrong! For the past two-three years or so I stopped
enjoying it as much. It’s been very gradual, and I’m sure there are external factors contributing
as well, but it just started feeling more and more exhausting. Endless information and
constantly feeling like I needed to catch up, and I was missing out and everything,
and just aaaahh! But despite feeling bad more and more, the
amount of time I spent on social media increased. And I mean that’s what the algorithms that
all of the sites have developed are designed to do, right? Make us stay on their websites
for as long as possible. And I was increasingly aware of the websites doing this, and having
this effect on me. But I still didn’t stop? It had become a habit, and I was stuck in
really bad patterns. Compulsively checking and letting myself get sucked in at even the
slightest hint of boredom. And spending late nights just aimlessly scrolling, being fully
aware that it would completely wreck my sleeping pattern, and that I wasn’t even really enjoying
myself. But still, almost every night arguing with myself. And almost every night losing. *loud rumbling and wind* Espen! *loud rumbling and wind continues* I’m here, Conscience. Switch it off! *sad, dramatic music starts playing*
*loud rumbling and wind continues* Go on, get a full night’s rest! *wind blowing, and dramatic music continues playing* What are you waiting for? *heavy breathing*
Just do it! Let it go… *voice echoes* Let it go… it go… *as rumbling and music fades* *notification sound in the distance* *notification noises, as whispering voices swirl around, and loud-pitched music plays* *all the voices fade* *wind blowing* I want to know what’s happening. *epic choir music plays* No… No…
*epic music continues* *high pitched noise grows louder* *phone unlocking pop* NOOOO! So, same time tomorrow night? Mhmm. I wanted to change, but I didn’t want to give up social media. So the first thing I did,
over a year ago now – I think, maybe almost two years… Was to turn off pop-up notifications.
I didn’t like that these apps were demanding my attention, and that I felt the immediate
need to engage. So I turned them off. That’s it. Done and duste- Except that just made me check my phone even more, to see if I’d gotten any notifications,
because now my phone wasn’t telling me if I had. And this became another new habit;
switching on my phone, seeing the little notification icon on the apps, and then boom – gone.
So then I put all of the social media apps on the second page on my phone, so I wouldn’t
see it as I switched my phone on. And I would have to consciously swipe in order to get
to- Within two days my hands had adapted to automatically
switch my phone on, swipe to the right, click on the icons, and scroll, before I even know
what I was consciously doing… Finally, in late January of this year, I suddenly
hit a wall. I was scrolling in bed, too late at night as usual, and I had this moment,
realising: I really, really don’t care… about any of this.
So there and then I logged out, and deleted the apps from my phone. I felt kind of free,
which I know is really dumb because there was no one forcing me, or checking that I
was keeping up with everything. But it really did feel like a pressure had been lifted. It was really nice not knowing what everyone was up to. *inspirational music playing* *music stops* Hey… What are you…? *sound of metal tools being dropped behind* I was jus- *sighs* Do you have another one of those… Oh, okay… *epic music plays* *music awkwardly falters* *tinfoil scratching on head* Wow… You kinda have a big head. It’s the exact same size as yours! So, is this the only solution, completely disconnecting? I mean yeah, I think it is healthy to completely disconnect now and again, but I’m not about to become some hermit. Against
all technology and modern society, living alone in the woods, fending for myself. Even
if for no other reason than that lifestyle just not being very practical for me.
But regardless of physical ability, I don’t want to fully disconnect. Because I actually
still believe that ultimately social media is more good than bad, or at least it can
be. And regardless, you can’t stop the progress – and shouldn’t. It’s here, we are more connected
than ever before, and I think that’s a good thing. I’ve definitely grown as a person because
of it. But I need to remember that it’s still so new, it can and is still being shaped.
Nothing is set in stone; even though it feels like there are these very concrete rules with
social media, there aren’t. So I just really need to take conscious control of my use of
it, and have it work for me. And I mean, even though I ‘quit’ social media in January, I
haven’t even fully stopped. I still use instagram a lot because there I have this curated feed
of- I basically just follow photographers, no one else, no one from my personal life.
I just go on there and feel inspired. I don’t feel any pull or need to go check it all the
time. And I still check my messages and direct notifications on other platforms. There are
groups and events that I- *breathing heavily* I thought you were different. Er… *whimpering and crying* But, *door slams* I don’t allow myself to scroll and just passively consume anymore.
*shot heard in distance* And the big secret trick to that: was to log
out. Seriously. When the muscle memory in my fingers, inevitably unconsciously type
in a site out of boredom, I’m met with a log-on page. So I have the opportunity to catch myself,
instead of being immediately bombarded with information and distractions. And personally
I think this is the way forward. Being really conscious about my use and just think about
why I’m doing what I’m doing. Just because automatic log-in is available doesn’t mean
that I need to use it. So I’m just making sure that I’m in charge and not some algorithm.
As much as that’s possible nowadays at least. Because honestly, a lot of the time the algorithm
does get it very right… And I kinda like it. All hail our benevolent overlords, and their almighty algorithms! *laughs* *radios static* Male voice: Clear shot achieved. Permission
to fire? Female voice: Negative. Rebellion detracted.
Abort assassination of target 2. Male voice: Affirmative. Aborting. Please do leave me a comment below, letting me know your thoughts on all of this, what
your relationship with social media is. Because I feel like I’m not the only one who’s sort
of gone through this, sort of… Bleh, crisis? That sounds very dramatic. But this sort of
like, eeew social media doesn’t feel right anymore, kinda thing.
Also, I have to say I’m using this video as a bit of an announcement to all of my friends.
I won’t be seeing, or I haven’t been seeing the posts you made on social media for the
past few months. And I do feel like I’m missing out. So if you have, like, a thing that you’ve
done, that you’re excited about, you’re gonna have to message me personally, because I won’t
see it. Thank you! And yeah, you will see me next
time. Bye! If you did enjoy this video and you wanna
see more, I would highly recommend that you check out my last comedy sketch-vlog over
there, which I personally think is the best thing I’ve ever made. So…
Otherwise you could also check out the video down there, which I actually don’t know what
is, but the YouTube Algorithm thinks that you should watch so, you know, you better
listen to them… *laughs*